Business Relationships Are Similar To Romantic Relationships

How Business Relationships Are Similar To Romantic Relationships

Business relationships are similar to romantic relationships. When either are established based on shared values, they are more durable, inspire greater loyalty, and last longer.

…express your values and provide the other party with value

If you’re seeking to establish a relationship in either business or romance, you need to both express your values and provide the other party with value to initiate that process successfully.

Communicated Values

When I used to do online dating, I communicated my values in my profile through a funny re-imagining of the lyrics to “Baby Got Back.” The values I expressed with that were that I wanted intelligence in my partner.

Sharing My Value

The value I provided was humor; because I made up a funny remix of a song, I would probably be a fun person to go on a date with (another value I provided was in my profile picture above; I’ve got an adorable dog that you might get to see if you went on a date with me).

Because I expressed my values and communicated value, I was constantly getting reactions like the one you see below.

By putting my values out there, I was able to establish human connections IRL easily and frequently. I stood out from the crowd, and was able to create the relationships I wanted to create.

Business relationships are similar to romantic relationships. Both are stronger when established based on values. So, establishing your business relationships through the sharing of values and the providing of value like the above example in online dating should be the goal of your marketing. Each post you make from now on should be focused on both expressing your value, and communicating your values.

Communicating Your Values Is The Foundation Of Career Security

Values Are The Single Most Important Part Of Gaining Career Security.

Communicating your Values is the foundation of career security. And expressing your values consistently over time is one part of how you build your network and how you create secure business relationships. If someone is spending money with or on you because they feel it is an expression of their values, rather than a transaction, you will have created a relationship that is based on those shared values.

If someone is spending money with or on you because they feel it is an expression of their values, rather than a transaction, you will have created a relationship that is based on those shared values.

That will result in more business in the long term and loyalty within the relationship. Ultimately, when you base your business relationships on values, you’ll have better, more fitting outcomes for both the buyer and seller.

Communicating Your Values

Values Are More Important To Communicate Than Quality

If someone is just paying you for your labor, they can go across the street tomorrow and find someone just out of school who is going to work harder than you. If someone is paying you for your expertise in tax law, well, unless you’re the Michael Jordan of tax law, there’s always someone better (and even if you are the Michael Jordan, there’s always someone cheaper). So, if you’re looking to build career security, money can’t be why people are hiring you or retaining your services. However, when a customer or client views doing business with you as an expression of values, rather than a transaction, you’ve successfully built a relationship that is more secure than one solely based on end results.

Communicating Your Values

Communicating Your Values

Your professional values should impact every single piece of communication you put out. Focusing your communications on these values will result in business relationships and connections that will be sustainable through thick and thin. That will lead to security in the long term because you won’t be as reliant one any individual job or client and your relationships will last longer.

Communicating Your Values

Forget Transactions, Build Relationships

Every time a person spends money with your business or hires you as an employee, they need to think of that transaction as being an expression of values. Somewhat paradoxically, you don’t want them to feel like spending money with you is a a transaction involving money.

Communicating Your Values

What That Looks Like In Practice

When major brands communicate their values effectively, purchasing their products no longer feels like a transaction.

  • When I buy a Corona beer, I’m not purchasing a beer, I’m purchasing the feeling of being on a beach.
  • When I’m buying an Apple Computer, I feel like I’m purchasing cultural cachet.
  • And if I bought something from a religious organization, I’d feel like I was expressing my religious values through that purchase.

None of those transactions feel like they involve money to the purchaser. And it is in transactions like that that you build long lasting business relationships and career security.

Communicating Your Values

Conclusion: Communicating Your Values Should Be The Point Of Your Messaging

Messaging based on values creates more secure relationships. It leads to customers or clients feeling like they are expressing values when they are doing business with you, rather than engaging in a meaningless transaction. This meaning brings loyalty and long lasting relationships. Major brands practice this and you should be doing so too.

Just Build It

You Just Need To Build It

You aren’t a professional content producer; that’s okay. You bring value through your skillset, not through highly polished productions. So, stop worrying about the medium that you’re making you’re point in, and just go ahead and build it already. Put it online. Make a podcast. Make an Instagram page. Go live on Facebook or YouTube. Whatever medium you want to use, just build it. Because that value you’re creating for someone can help you build your network, can help you advance at your current company, or could lead to your next job or your next client or your next milestone. 

If you’re going to put yourself out there as a source of value, where people can gain something from following you on social media or going to events you host, or whatever, you need to actually get your message out there. You can’t let something like production values or polish hold you back. So just build it!

Some Examples Of How To Communicate Value

Lawyer

If you’re a lawyer, just tell me what I need to know about the law so that when I need to hire a lawyer, I already trust you and I’ll spend my money with you because you’ve been a part of my Instagram feed for the past 5 months talking to a camera phone from behind your desk.

Physical Therapist rubbing a person's back

Physical Therapist

If you’re a physical therapist, show me a bunch of exercises I can do to rehab a torn calf muscle. So that when I tear my calf muscle, I call you right after I get out of the hospital because I’ve been watching your rehab videos on twitter for the past three months.

Financial Planner

If you’re a financial planner, tell me what I should do with some plain text Facebook posts now that the economy is in the tank, so that when I make some money I come to you to grow it because what you told me to do paid off.

Develop Your Network

To gain career security and develop a network of people who will use your services, you need to put yourself out there and provide value. That value has almost nothing to do with how polished your posts are. Sure, do your best to appear professional, but ultimately the value of your expertise is more important than anything else.